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Hey there!
I'm Roxana Claudia
I'm here to help you stop feeling inadequate, less-than, and unworthy.
I’ll help you go from “everyone is judging me and I’m definitely doing it wrong” to “yeah, this is a bit cringe and I’m still allowed to be here.”
I know what it feels like to be so mentally exhausted from pretending to be “normal” that you’d rather cancel plans than risk being seen as awkward or “too much.”
After years of being debilitated by social anxiety and ruled by toxic shame (I couldn’t even make eye contact with friends), I slowly learned how to see myself as worth knowing — even when I felt cringey.
Now I help you do the same: step out of beige, slay toxic shame, and show up as the real you.
Hey there!
I'm Roxana Claudia
I'm here to help you stop feeling inadequate, less-than, and unworthy.
I’ll help you go from “everyone is judging me and I’m definitely doing it wrong” to “yeah, this is a bit cringe and I’m still allowed to be here.”
I know what it feels like to be so mentally exhausted from pretending to be “normal” that you’d rather cancel plans than risk being seen as awkward or “too much.”
After years of being debilitated by social anxiety and ruled by toxic shame (I couldn’t even make eye contact with friends), I slowly learned how to see myself as worth knowing — even when I felt cringey.
Now I help you do the same: step out of beige, slay toxic shame, and show up as the real you.
SOCIAL ANXIETY EXPERT
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You don't have to change who you are
You have to believe you're worth knowing
To be free and unabashedly you to the fullest at any moment, whatever that looks like.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve been bombarded your entire life with messages that, to make it, succeed, get noticed, and have an impact, you need to have the personality for it.
You MUST find a way to fake it. You MUST change.
But that’s just society whispering in our ears. The truth is that social confidence is like any other skill. You can learn it! I didn’t magically press a button and feel confident to ask for a promotion. I didn’t wake up one day and suddenly have 20 chat threads open. It took effort. Not only that, I had to ACCEPT that it would take effort.
But if I can do it, so can you. I went from being the girl who took notes in the corner of the meeting room, too scared to ask questions and offer solutions, to leading a team and calling out BS when needed.
I went from worrying about what everyone thought of me to standing confidently in front of them. Vulnerable.
Finally, I learned to connect successfully, speak up properly, and have the right amount of influence in my personal and professional life. All skills I had to learn! It all starts with being aware of your social anxiety and deciding you’ve had enough of its influence on your life.
My mission
To help you slay toxic shame so that mean inner voice finally shuts up.
To help you skip the fake small talk, believe you’re worth knowing (weird hobbies, awkward past, intrusive thoughts and all), and stop auditioning for people who don’t even know themselves. Around here, we don’t aim for perfect. We aim for cringe, but honest.
10+
Years of working on my social anxiety
1000+
People I helped with social anxiety
M.S.
Master in psychology + Master in IT Mgmt
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I'm big on
Deconstructing. Unresolved trauma. Books (no horror, please). The mysteries of the universe (like, why are the Kardashians so popular?!). Understanding myself and the people around me better. The belief that I can learn from anyone, anywhere. Being wrong. Asking for help. Honesty (had to put that in there!), and being kind to myself first.
Some of my favorite things
My two kids (most of the time). Husband (also most of the time). French crepes. Vancouver city. Thrift-shopping. Dessert of any possible kind. Historical fiction. The British accent. Chris Hemsworth. Oat milk latte. Buffy. Sailor Moon. My goodness, I’m so dating myself here.
a complicated background
Born in Romania, grew up in Canada, and spent my formative teenage years in Florida. I’m trilingual and currently based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands learning a 4th language. Phew!
My toxic shame manifested into social anxiety
“Veronica,” AKA my social anxiety, appears in many of my short-form videos. She’s a stark reminder that I’m NOT my social anxiety and that I don’t need to talk to her if I don’t want to. I am in control of what she says.
I challenged her at every step of the way until she backed off. I highly recommend you do the same.
I'm a mom of 2
When I became a mom, I struggled in ways I never thought possible (above and beyond the hardships of parenthood).
My social anxiety was on fire.
How was it that after years of being able to manage it finally, it was now bringing me to my knees? As much as I tried to figure it out independently, I sought a professional therapist’s help to untangle myself again.
It’s still a work in progress, but it’s not the raging dumpster fire I had to deal with years ago.
If you’re a parent with social anxiety, there’s nothing more excruciating than having to learn how to take care of your mental health and your kids’ happiness (usually, those are at odds with each other).
I’m here to support you if you struggle with this.
let my experiences guide you
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This is where I pour all my insights, strategies, stories and experiences related to not believing in my worth (or liking myself) so you know you’re not alone in what you’re going through.
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Hi, I'm Rox!
I spent years struggling with toxic shame, which often showed up as crippling social anxiety. It held me back in so many areas of my life, making me feel unworthy and paralyzed by fear. But through years of self-discovery and healing, I finally found the tools to break free from it.
